I've read that some people's reaction to the idea of adopting an older child is the disappointment not to be there for the kiddo's "firsts." First word, first step - and they're all great things and we celebrate them, but the truth is, kids need parents who are in it for the long haul and the celebrations, both. The firsts are important, but the real importance of them is that, when we have a "first," whatever age we are, that there be people around us to note the importance of it. It's a round about way of saying, there's always more to celebrate in a person's life.
So when we found the adoptuskids listing for Aya, Tala and Sarah, three sisters between the ages of 9 and 14, we weren't worried about what we'd missed. We wondered what had happened to deprive these beautiful girls of a permanent home. We knew that if they hadn't found their "forever family" by the time we have a real home (and not a teeny apartment in the city) to offer them, that we wanted them to be part of that real home. We tried to hope that they wouldn't have to wait another six months for us. And when Sarah's age suddenly turned 10, we marked it on a calendar (first birthday!)
Turns out, it's a whole different kind of first for us. Sometime in the last couple of days, the girls' listing was removed from adoptuskids. They're no longer waiting for a forever family, and we're happy for them. We're trying to just be happy for them.
It's about as hard as you might imagine.